Strategy and support can help your New Year's resolution succeed
Exercising more, losing weight, eating more healthily are the three most common New Year’s resolutions, according to a ComRes Poll in 2015.
But whether it is giving up smoking, drinking less alcohol or saving money, people embarking on New Year’s resolutions might need a strategy and support – including therapy – help to reach their goal.
New Year is a date in the diary which helps us focus on long term life improvements, It is also a date after a festive season where it is often not frowned upon to overindulge. People have one last fling with the things they want to stop because in the New Year it will all change. It’s a nice excuse.
Resolutions are at the top of the mind for many people. It’s being talked about and written about and, because we are not on our own, it can make it easier.
But for it to work people need to take time to understand what is involved. And they need patience, because lifestyle changes don’t just happen.
Rebeccah Evans offers counselling and psychotherapy from a private practice in Buderim, Peregian Beach and London as well as serving clients internationally online. Rebeccah can offer support to help you succeed in making positive change in your life.
The ComRes survey found that a quarter of all UK adults made a New Year’s resolution, but fewer than one in eight successfully kept one.
The most common reasons for giving up or not achieving a resolution were a lack of commitment and a loss of motivation.
In addition to this imposing a lifestyle change on one specific day of the year is itself problematic.
Do you really want to call a serious personal change a New Year’s resolution?. Does it make it a bit frivolous?
If it’s a resolution I think that has a start and an end, like I want to lose 5kg.
Why do people feel you just pick a date in the diary to make a lifestyle change?
You need to understand why you engage in the habits that you think you want to stop.
If it’s to fulfil an emotional or psychological purpose, which most of them do, you can’t stop the habit without something in place that supports you.
If you are smoking for comfort or stress, the stress is not going to stop just because you stop smoking.
You will continue to need comfort. For many, if you have a vacuum there, the stress is still there and could increase without the comfort. It’s a double whammy.
What do you have to fall back on?
People replace one thing with another, coined the domino effect. We then have another habit and have to stop that one as well.
It can lead to a sense of frustration. People think ‘what’s wrong with me, why can’t I correct this?’.
You end up feeling trapped and sometimes therapy comes into it. If you dig a bit deeper you might understand what is causing the stress, what is behind the need for comfort.
Hopefully, you can find out ways of avoiding this situation in the first place.
People embarking on lifestyle changes in the New Year should think about whether they tell other people.
Does your success depend on support from others?. You might want to think about whether you want to talk about it with other people because you are under the microscope.
People will watch you. You open yourself up to more pressure. You can set yourself up for a sense of failure.
For other people, the pressure of it might be just what they need. Some people need to be under the microscope.
If you live with other people and it is something that will impact their lifestyle, meals for exampl