For many couples, the new year brings an opportunity to reflect on their relationship and look to the future.
1. Know yourself
Making sure you ‘know yourself’ is one of the most important things you can do in a relationship.
Understanding your own personality, emotions and pressure points can be very beneficial to a relationship.
2. Make time to talk with your partner
It’s important to do this as often as you can. Some couples will do this once a week, others will use the time they spend in therapy. It’s vital to be aware of how both people are feeling and what’s going on in the relationship.
3. Tackling issues
Couples should have an agreed strategy for managing issues outside of the relationship, such as work, hobbies and family. This means you are both on the same track, there are fewer surprises and both people in the relationship are more prepared about how to tackle issues when they come up. This can be particularly important after Christmas if there’s been a family argument or it’s been a hard time.
4. Have a shared vision for the relationship
It’s important that your visions for the relationship are shared. If one person wants to live in a big mansion, but the other person doesn’t think that’s important, there could be a problem. Some people have this conversation at the early stages of the relationship, but then don’t have it again. It’s no use if this discussion was 10 years ago. Things change, you have to keep having this shared vision’ conversation throughout your relationship.
5. Don’t forget the physical side of a relationship
Remember to practice physical touch – whatever feels comfortable.Ensure physical contact is part of the relationship, it can offer safety and security. Even holding hands or having a kiss can help.
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